One of those things you aren't told ahead of time is the feeling of loneliness when you just have a baby. If you've just given birth, that doesn't mean you won't get anywhere. On the contrary even. Arrange that evening with friends. Go for a nice walk with that friend. And book that flight. Provided you want to, of course, because if you want to cocoon for a while - as long as you want - that is also possible. Having a baby can also be a lonelier time for many new parents. People assume that you want to be cozy together and you are less likely to be asked along. Would you like to see that change? Pick up that phone and call those friends who give you good energy. Or book that weekend away or long-distance trip for your new family. You have to hang the garlands yourself and this can be done much more often with a baby.